When it is come to leadership and work effectiveness, Emotional intelligence definitions differ.
To keep it simple, leading scholars say it is having the ability to “recognize, understand, or manage our own emotions and recognize, understand, and influence the emotions of others.
Kill the negative self-talk.
Are you a negative person?
If you are at the point where you are seriously looking to shift to the positive, step one is to alter your perception of your current situation by killing the negative self-talk.
We all has that voice of criticism in our heads that is spin negative things that may not be true. To deal with the inner critic, challenge negative thinking with a simple “Whenever you feel sad, mad, nervous or out of control, write down what you are thinking. Then question your thoughts. Just those three words can cause a revolution in your life.”
Getting our thoughts right and short-circuiting a negative spiral by questioning our thoughts can have a transformative effect on our outlook, relationships, and work performance.
getting our thoughts right and short-circuiting a negative spiral by questioning our thoughts can have a transformative effect on our outlook, relationships, and work performance.
Stop judging others.
Since judgmental people criticize anything and everything as if it’s were a hobby, they should not rexpect anyone to come to them for advice or problem-solving (others know it’s a total waste of time to do so).
What a judgemental attitude will do this alienate colleagues at work. If this is you, your best plan of action is to stop jumping to conclusions before hearing all the facts and start listening intently to improve your communication skills. Live by your life values.
Make this a priority, and watch your peers slowly gravitate toward you as you make it safe for them to do so. Remember this When we judge, we invite judgment upon ourselves.
Live by your values.
Values motivate us and keep us in check for doing the right thing. To live by your values, an exercise of clarifying what they are it is your first step. Make a list of what is non-negotiable in how you operate in business, work, relationships, marriage, parenting, etc.
Are these values being fulfilled in your life right now?
Once you get that straightened out, prioritize those values. Check the list: What are the five most important values on it? Are you spending a significant portion of your time living from them?
Learn to grow from your failures.
Thus include getting into the habit of “failing forward.” In other words, as you are experiment, fail, try again, and learn from your mistakes, accept that it is all part of the a process to grow, without any shame attached.
We need to redefine failure and making mistakes through new lenses and see it as a critical part of learning a new way of life.